3 principles to guide your decisions and actions – Principle 3: Why your world is a mirror

The first time I learned this concept, I remember scoffing at it and thinking, that can't be right. But as I got older, I could see its absolute truth.

Imagine this.

There are 3 people who see an incident all at the same time. It doesn’t really matter what the incident is, it could be someone beeps a car horn, someone could drop a plate, etc, but all 3 people witness the event simultaneously.

The first person thinks, wow that was so cool.

The second person thinks, who cares.

The third person thinks, oh my goodness that is terrible.

Three completely different reactions to seeing exactly the same incident.

What did they see?


They all took in the information via their 5 senses, compared it to their internal references including their values and beliefs, judged it, and reacted accordingly, in other words the event just mirrored themselves back to them.

In our own journeys of personal growth, this is one of the most important tools we have.

So how do we use it?

We make our best decisions when we are emotionally balanced and able to clearly think about the options and situation at hand.

Emotions are a result of an imbalanced perspective, there are ALWAYS 2 sides to every story. (For every action there is an equal and opposite reaction). If we are overly emotional we are only see half the story and thus not able to make a good decision.

So, if you have a strong negative emotion about a situation, ask yourself, “how does this situation serve me?”

On the other hand, if you have a strong positive emotion, ask yourself, “what is the drawback?”

Keep asking whichever question is appropriate until you are able to neutralise the emotion, then you are able to make a better decision and not let the external situation have control over you.

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